[at-l] Someone to hike with Jerry!

[marytinvb at aol.com]

  I know it would be better for me to take the picture down, but I keep it up to remind myself what a hate-filled, manipulative person she is. She managed to take out my whole family and my daughters and I will forever suffer. He doesn't even deserve to call the girls his anymore, and they are all disgusted with him. She's leading him around by the hand and making him think he's doing right, and his lawyers have never suggested counseling to get him away from that evil person. I wish I had known 23 years ago what kind of failure he would turn out to be. 
 
 Anyway, thanks for listening and for the sympathy. If he would come back, all would be forgiven, but I surely could never trust him again when there are snakes like her out there. She's been pursuing him heavily for a long time, and I guess I should be thankful that he's gone since he has now proven what kind of person he is.
 
 Thanks for your kindness. Getting off line to try to heal a little.
 
 Mary 
  
 -----Original Message-----
 From: athiker at smithville.net
 To: marytinvb at aol.com
 Sent: Mon, 4 Sep 2006 12:04 PM
 Subject: Re: [at-l] Someone to hike with Jerry!
 
  marytinvb at aol.com wrote:
  Thank you for the kind thoughts! I do hope it will one day get better. His desertion came out of the blue, on our 23rd wedding anniversary....and there are days when I wake up still unable to believe what he did. I have a picture of his girlfriend Cheryl on the bulletin board beside my desk, to remind me of what a snake he really was. 
     
 Well, alright then...now, remembering that I don't know you, or him, or anything about either of you...I'll say this (I'm always good for talkin'...and, sayin' things)
 
 First, I'd take the picture down. You don't need to be reminded of anything. You need to figure out a way to try to NOT be reminded of this whole thing. What is done is done...what he is doing he is doing. You have to...HAVE to...try to get away from that. Try to be Mary again. (I'm assuming that is your name :-) Be mad. Be hurt. Be heartbroken. But, be able to rise above it. Don't lower yourself to their level. AGain, realizing that I'm WAY removed from all of this, I'll say this: Things aren't the way you want them...and, a lot of things are out of your control. So, focus on the things that are IN your control. And, nothing good will come from being bad. Try...TRY...to not do things just for the sake of meanness. I know this all sounds like a bunch of bullshit...but, I've been there. A different there...but, there. 
   
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